Mindy Kaling on Getting Wiser

"Things used to bother me for longer. Now if I hear some devastating, horrible thing about my appearance or my talent or whatever it'll only bother me for, like, 30 seconds," said actress and writer Mindy Kaling on getting wiser with age. Miss Kaling is a 35-year-old actress born and raised in Cambridge, Massachusetts.  Her father is an architect and her mother was a physician and they were both Indian born; they are highly educated people who pushed their children to do well in school.  In high school, Mindy excelled in high school and got accepted to the Ivy League college Dartmouth College where she received a bachelors in Playwriting. She is the second generation of the Indian ancestry living in the United States; most Indian Americans get in the field of science or engineering and she takes the unlikely path for her ethnicity.  Mindy does not have a typical Hollywood star body--she is what the public calls "fat" or curvy depending on each person's perspective but for sure, many people do not approve of  and do not see her in a positive light due to her physical appearance as a successful movie star and a woman in the land of Hollywood.

Here are a few things I learned from Miss Kaling:

1. She does not follow the crowd. She decides what is the good path for her rather than giving in what the majority says; she did not choose the science and engineering path like most Indian Americans go for. She is an independent thinker.
2. It's important to know yourself and do not let people take that away.
3. Growing older helps us to deal with problems better. As Mindy aged, she learned how to deal with what the public says to her better. She only lets it affects her 30 seconds only rather than for a long time.

Often than not, we care so much about what people think of us.  People say a certain comment about us, eg we don't eat enough health food, our fashion style needs a change, we do this or that too much, etc.and we tell ourselves that we don't care what people say but when a harsh comment comes to us, we sometimes take the blow badly: we brood over and over think about the words whispered to us and break every grammar part down to see its true meanings.  We say we don't care about what other think about us but we unconsciously do if we count how many time we over think and get frustrated over what was being said.

Of all lessons I get from reading about Mindy, I think aging plays a big role in personal developments for her.  I think it is fine to get frustrated now and then since that's part of being human; what matters is that we need to remember that aging will help us deal with problems much easier and when we remember this we have more peace of mind and can deal with problems much easier.