The Scheme of Conflicts

My sister and I moved to a new apartment last week and we had one of the big fight for the first time today.  It wasn't even about something big, the topic of the fight was small and trivial and it's been two hours since the conflict ended and looking  back I recognize all the flaws in it and how I would change my approach the next time we have another combat like that.  I love my sister but like many people having siblings will create unwanted conflicts at times and there are times where I want to leave them and not have to deal with them forever.  Is this possible?  In my case, not really since we need each other, if not as supports, I still need them in term of finance, etc.

Our argument lasted about one hour and there were small arguments following it, however, I learned so much from this conflict that I realize the one hour was worth the experience. I learned that conflicts can help me grow as a person.  The experience reveals parts of me that I might not have known or oblivious to.  Conflicts teach me how to stay calm and not do anything stupid.  I was definitely not calm during the argument (I'm sure many of you can relate to this) but I was able to recognize it and it taught me what to do the next time something like this happens once again.

I also learned how to deal with conflicts.  First of all, do not run away from conflicts, face it head on; the more I run away from it, the more it will bite me int he butt later on. In addition, in order to solve any conflict, I have to remove myself from the heated situation so I can think through what's happening and come up with solutions on how to react; there are many ways to fix a problem and removing myself from a situation will allow me to do that and put me in a better position to do that as well.  Last but not least, sometimes it's best to step back even if you know you are right.  If two parties are at it and no one decides to step down, the conflicts will not go anywhere.

Today was definitely a learning experience and maybe it's a new beginning for a new thought process and change.  Life sure knows how to teach us a lesson when we least expected.