I almost got into an argument with someone today. I did not like how he was treating me and his behaviors were obscene and socially unacceptable at every level. I wanted to scream and yell at him for what he was doing and to even physically hurt him. I gave him so many chances to be my friend and to get along with him but as time passes by, it proves my tactics are not working and that I will have to accept it for what it really is. However, today was an exception; I was going through a lot and what he did only press my button further and as I walked toward him, I heard my own voice telling me to stop it. I did not hear it but it was definitely a naturally instinct since I have been in this situation before. After the situation, I realize I have master the art of self-control. It's definitely an accomplishment that I was not expecting for.
Here are a few lessons I learned about self-control:
1. Self-aware is important. We need to be aware of what we are doing and what is happening around us in order to be self-controlled. When we are not conscious of our action, everything around us is, and maybe for sure, out of our hand and we have no control over them.
2. In the height of anger, it's imperative that we go to a place alone and calm down. When we stop the situation, we can think more clearly and we do not let things get to us. This act removes us from the source and cause and it helps us to interpret and see what is going on and as a result, we make better and wiser decisions.
Self-control is a skill that has to be learned and practiced constantly in order for us to see the result. We all can master the skill and it is only a matter of us willing to learn it and put it to good use in our lives. It can improve our professional and personal life and make us smarter as a person.
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