Fake It

Don't fake it till you make it. Fake it until you become it.  

The first sentence is a common wisdom that generations have heard for decades and the latter wisdom echo it's contents and deepens its understanding further. 

As a woman, I still feel I am constantly bombarded with new problems every single day and for sure they have transformed me into a woman and helped me grow in many aspects of life.  It's an endless war that promises not to be relentless. The saying fake it until you become it is true.  I have been applying this concept for the past two years and it's working.  There are times where I want to give up everything and not have to deal with my problems and I literally have to fake it and I did and it worked.  For one thing, for the past years I faked confidence and made it through countless problems.  Don't get me wrong, there were days where I want to give up everything and leave my current life style and move far away so I do not have to confront them; the temptations lurk in the bushes somewhere and it pops its  head out now and  then and the urge to fall for it is very much there.  It's trap that is not afraid to hide itself.  Fake. It. People. Say. I fake  my confidence and feel like an impostor in many occasions but the good results of my actions keeps me on going back and repeat it. 

However, I discover that in order for any person to fake it until he/she becomes it requires many qualities  in order to succeed.  Here are a few must-have qualities in order for the fake-it plan to work:

1. Goal. You must know what goals you are achieving.

2. Be aware of the obstacles on the path of reaching the goals. In the game of chess, the player has to foresee the opponent's next move so as in life, you have to have an idea of what the next step should be.  Trial and errors will help shape your predictions.  

3. Having a support group.  This could be your friends, family, relatives, coworkers.

Of course, getting through problems depends on the background, history, and experience of each individual.  The fake it until you become it is definitely a model worth trying out now and then.