I am single and I used to cringe every time I have to tell other people about the fact and now as I get older, I don't see any point of getting embarrassed about it. People will always have an opinion about me, no matter how bad or good of a person I am, and I discover that listening to other people only leads to an unsatisfying and unwanted life. As I approach my late 20s, my Asian mother, with her broken English, kept asking, "You married yet?" and my answer is always, "I don't know." But recently, I have a different response when my noisy mother asks me the same question for the thousands time: "When the right time come, he will come." To be honest, I don't know if I actually believe it when I first heard it coming out of my mouth but as I continually say it to anyone who ask me the same question, I come to actually believe it. People say that if you don't believe in yourself, just pretend that you do and you will eventually will.
In the similar scenario, I have come to believe the fact too that when the right time comes, my Prince will come. I have dated countless guys and many of them are great men but things never did click. When it comes to experiencing the dating world, there is always trial and error until we understand something. Likewise, dating is the same. We will have to go through some bad and wrong relationships before we land on the right one. We can't rush or force it. The process is a part of life and for the time being, the best we can do is to focus on being the right person and enjoy what we have because when he/she comes, everything will make sense.
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Saturday, July 25, 2015
A Few Words on Perfection
As a 20 something person, I find myself to fall in the trap of trying to please people just as when I was younger in high school and college. I constantly remind myself that it is not worth it but again and again, I continuously fall for the mistake and as a result, my plan get a detour and I find myself to have a hard time to do what I actually want to accomplish. In the song "Perfect" sang by the Canadian band Simple Plan, the lyrics talk about how perfection is not possible and it retells how he has to please his dad and fails to do so.
In our lives, we all can relate to this predicament; we have the deep desire to please our love ones when we have our own schedule and goals. However, is it possible? Is it even manageable to be perfect? Is it possible to please everyone? No matter what your relationship is with the other person, people will always have an opinion about us: about how we look, the way we dress, the way we live out our lives, the way we carry ourselves, etc. And worse of all we can't avoid it no matter how far we try to run away from it. Maturity comes when we realize perfection is not possible; it comes when we accept our flaws and continue to live and try our very best at life. It is not easy but I find that the more we practice, the more we get better at it, and when we finally acknowledge that perfection is not possible we take life less seriously and best of all, life becomes much more enjoyable.
In our lives, we all can relate to this predicament; we have the deep desire to please our love ones when we have our own schedule and goals. However, is it possible? Is it even manageable to be perfect? Is it possible to please everyone? No matter what your relationship is with the other person, people will always have an opinion about us: about how we look, the way we dress, the way we live out our lives, the way we carry ourselves, etc. And worse of all we can't avoid it no matter how far we try to run away from it. Maturity comes when we realize perfection is not possible; it comes when we accept our flaws and continue to live and try our very best at life. It is not easy but I find that the more we practice, the more we get better at it, and when we finally acknowledge that perfection is not possible we take life less seriously and best of all, life becomes much more enjoyable.
Friday, July 24, 2015
Pushing On
"There are those who stop and those who pushes on."
Obstacles are in every part of life, no matter where we walk we will run into a rock or two, get tripped over, and eventually hurt. It's life and we will have to get used to it one way or another. There are two actions we can take when we run into a roadblock in life: we either stop or we keep going. When we stop, we let problems take control over us but when we keep going, we take the matters in our control and as a result, we become more confident and more self-assured each day. But pushing on sometimes seem like death is imminent and it may scared us to the point where we see no way we can win the battle. But there is a but in everything in life. But what if we actually are closer to success than we imagine, but what if all we need is that final push to get to that final destination. So you see, everything is possible in life and when we acknowledge that, we keep going, we keep pushing on.
Obstacles are in every part of life, no matter where we walk we will run into a rock or two, get tripped over, and eventually hurt. It's life and we will have to get used to it one way or another. There are two actions we can take when we run into a roadblock in life: we either stop or we keep going. When we stop, we let problems take control over us but when we keep going, we take the matters in our control and as a result, we become more confident and more self-assured each day. But pushing on sometimes seem like death is imminent and it may scared us to the point where we see no way we can win the battle. But there is a but in everything in life. But what if we actually are closer to success than we imagine, but what if all we need is that final push to get to that final destination. So you see, everything is possible in life and when we acknowledge that, we keep going, we keep pushing on.
Thursday, July 23, 2015
An Encounter
"We will start the beauty chat session momentarily," a Brunette sale
representative at the SpaceNK booth announced to the
group of eager beauty addicts who gathered at the MeetUp session,
ready to meet the two YouTubers they have been following and watching for the past
years. Lily Pebbles and Anna stepped out behind the back room and entered the
shopping area of the meeting place, Lily was wearing a black jump suit from Zara with a
see-through tights, with speckle of poky dots, under the black top of the
outfit; Anna, on the other hand, had a vanilla-colored white dress with ruffles
at the end of the three-quarter sleeves of the knee-length dress and she added a boyish and casual touch to
the outfit by wearing a pair of green-grey ankle-length boots. Each of the two
girls had on foundation and their eye make-up brings out the natural beauty of
their oval and big eyes that many Asian women would do anything to get. Lily and
Anna are British make-up gurus from London and they are known for their make-up and fashion videos
on YouTube.
As I stood waiting to have my turn for the pictures, the butterfly in my stomach revealed itself and I found myself struggling to find words to say to the two girls. After waiting for five to ten minutes watching girls after girls taking pictures of the two ladies, I decided to take the matter in my own hand and jumped in the circle and asked the two ladies to have a picture of me. Politely and with a smile on my face, I sandwiched between Lily and Anna and got a picture of them. I told them that I love Lily's black dress and commented how they look more beautiful in person and they accepted by comments with a genuine smile on their face; Lily was smiling at me as if I was the most important person in the world and I just wanted to hug her and ask her if I could be her friend on Facebook or have her hang out with me if I were ever visiting London.
The best way to understand anything is to learn by doing, actually experiencing it, and getting our hand dirty. Meeting the two girls taught me the importance of being friendly and well-rounded and more importantly it showed how powerful the internet world is and how a click away can bring a group of strangers together. I can spend all day reading about the two make-up gurus and their influence on YouTube but actually standing there and seeing the effect of the internet world on the viewers was astounding and mind-blowing at the same time. The internet connects people from all over the world and brings them to a point in time and everyone is related one way or another, no matter what their gender, religion, and socioeconomic is. Sometimes, in life, we have to experience in order to understand something and when we get it, when we finally see the purpose of a particular interest and action, we are changed forever and we are never the same person again. We become more open-minded and even better, we become a better version of ourselves with the mindset that is open to anything the world gives us.
As I stood waiting to have my turn for the pictures, the butterfly in my stomach revealed itself and I found myself struggling to find words to say to the two girls. After waiting for five to ten minutes watching girls after girls taking pictures of the two ladies, I decided to take the matter in my own hand and jumped in the circle and asked the two ladies to have a picture of me. Politely and with a smile on my face, I sandwiched between Lily and Anna and got a picture of them. I told them that I love Lily's black dress and commented how they look more beautiful in person and they accepted by comments with a genuine smile on their face; Lily was smiling at me as if I was the most important person in the world and I just wanted to hug her and ask her if I could be her friend on Facebook or have her hang out with me if I were ever visiting London.
The best way to understand anything is to learn by doing, actually experiencing it, and getting our hand dirty. Meeting the two girls taught me the importance of being friendly and well-rounded and more importantly it showed how powerful the internet world is and how a click away can bring a group of strangers together. I can spend all day reading about the two make-up gurus and their influence on YouTube but actually standing there and seeing the effect of the internet world on the viewers was astounding and mind-blowing at the same time. The internet connects people from all over the world and brings them to a point in time and everyone is related one way or another, no matter what their gender, religion, and socioeconomic is. Sometimes, in life, we have to experience in order to understand something and when we get it, when we finally see the purpose of a particular interest and action, we are changed forever and we are never the same person again. We become more open-minded and even better, we become a better version of ourselves with the mindset that is open to anything the world gives us.
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
A Place to Be Yourself
In the recent Ted Talk episode, author and Youtube sensation John Green shared his firm belief in learning and discussed the importance of being in a community that encourages and inspires learning. Mr. Green attended a boarding school where learning was rampant and where everyone was enthused about learning and as a result, he grew a passion for learning; he compared the website Youtube as a channel to a learning community. In addition to writing books, Mr. Green hosts the Youtube channel Mental Floss where he and other hosts talks about different academic topics, using humors and their personal experiences to aid the videos and to attract viewers.
As humans, we want to fit in and be a part of a community that accepts us; we are social beings who love to relate to other humans and who love to connect with other people and best of all, we want to be in a community where we can be our true self. For instance, millions of college graduates join the website MeetUp where members invite each other to events and many long-term friendships have formed from the meetings and hangouts of the website. Sometimes, material goods do not satisfy us because they are not meant to be; they are just supplements to the important elements that can only fulfill us; one of the important element in our lives is being a part of a community. Those of us who have being a member of a church, clubs, school, sport teams, etc know how it feels like to be living in those groups; first of all, a community gives us a sense of our self. We know ourselves by receiving the response from other people and more importantly, we grow as a person when we get and understand other people's reaction toward our behaviors, whether it is good or bad reactions.
One downside is that sometimes the community can be more of a hindrance than any help, especially when the time for us to leave the group has arrived and when we are meant to look for another community to be a part of since we have out grown the group and its missions are no longer aligned with our goals in life. However, many people can testify that they have joined a community that has helped them grow in their walk in life. Youtubers, or also known as people who make YouTube videos, for instance, claimed the Youtube community gives them their identity and worth that no other community, or even their family, can. And many people are still on a search to find that right community to help them grow. Whether you are a part of a community or not, it is never to late to let your guard down, take chances, and search for one group that would help your personal growth. In the end, the purpose of life is not to amass material goods in life, the purpose of life is to live a purposeful one and a community can be the catalyst that helps us walk toward that life we are meant to live.
As humans, we want to fit in and be a part of a community that accepts us; we are social beings who love to relate to other humans and who love to connect with other people and best of all, we want to be in a community where we can be our true self. For instance, millions of college graduates join the website MeetUp where members invite each other to events and many long-term friendships have formed from the meetings and hangouts of the website. Sometimes, material goods do not satisfy us because they are not meant to be; they are just supplements to the important elements that can only fulfill us; one of the important element in our lives is being a part of a community. Those of us who have being a member of a church, clubs, school, sport teams, etc know how it feels like to be living in those groups; first of all, a community gives us a sense of our self. We know ourselves by receiving the response from other people and more importantly, we grow as a person when we get and understand other people's reaction toward our behaviors, whether it is good or bad reactions.
One downside is that sometimes the community can be more of a hindrance than any help, especially when the time for us to leave the group has arrived and when we are meant to look for another community to be a part of since we have out grown the group and its missions are no longer aligned with our goals in life. However, many people can testify that they have joined a community that has helped them grow in their walk in life. Youtubers, or also known as people who make YouTube videos, for instance, claimed the Youtube community gives them their identity and worth that no other community, or even their family, can. And many people are still on a search to find that right community to help them grow. Whether you are a part of a community or not, it is never to late to let your guard down, take chances, and search for one group that would help your personal growth. In the end, the purpose of life is not to amass material goods in life, the purpose of life is to live a purposeful one and a community can be the catalyst that helps us walk toward that life we are meant to live.
Sunday, July 19, 2015
The Inconvenience
It's the middle of July and it's raining hard outside. Thunderstorm could be heard through out the skyline of Southern California and its presence was a bit of a surprise to many Southern Californians as our usual weather consists mainly of the sun and its radiance across the horizon. The temperature was in the 80s in Fahrenheit and the humidity was cast, and feel, all over the atmosphere. Despite how much I enjoy a cloudy day, I find myself to prefer the regular sunny day in California.
Today was one of the weird day and it was one of the hard day too. I got into a conflict with a roommate and it ended on a bad term, I mean no one got hurt physically--thank God-- but the relationship between my roommate and me has gotten worse starting today. In term of who started the fight, I do not have the answer to that question and the end result was that we both were pointing finger at each other for who was the person at wrong. Sign. From this experience, I discover some problems cannot be resolved and the best action to take is to don't care. That's part of life. We can try our very best and hardest to fix whatever is going on but maybe that one problem is not meant to be fixed, maybe that problem is meant to be left alone and let whoever or whatever involved live with it. Maybe that is the solution to some problems, maybe that is how we should deal with any inconvenience in life.
Saturday, July 18, 2015
A Bundle of Joy
My new nephew was born on 7/2/2015 at exactly 12AM and my sister decided to name him Warren. We were all expecting him to come late in the month of July but he surprised us by entering the world in the early part of the month; the obstetrician called him a pre-term infant and he is healthy as any other little infant who enters the world. My sister is all joyful about this little guy but after having two nephews already for the past decade, the new nephew was not something I have a high expectation of.
However, when I held him in the hospital, every thing seems to change. My sister put him on the crux of my left arm and I have not held a new infant for such a long time that I had to struggle a bit to position him in the right and safe way so that he would not fall off my arm. He was being fussy as he was placed on my arm but after being on my arm for a second or two, he calmed down and he closed his little eyes to enjoy being held by his aunt for the first time in his life. The instant connect between him and me was there and the comfort of holding another new human being was the last thing I expected; as I held him, he closed his eyes now and then and then peaked open his eyes to the wonder of the new world around him and the people standing closed to him. When he moved, the wrinkles on his forehead became apparent and when he cried, his little lips opened wide and there was no hint of embarrassment whatsoever about his toothless mouth. Warren is a gift and he is definitely an unexpected bundle of joy. Sometimes, life throws at us something hard to handle but at other times, it gives us the little things that would give us joy that no other material goods can bring to us. Life can be frustrating at times but it can bring us small joy that triumphs over what we would consider as the more important things in life--think money and material goods--which would only bring us temporary happiness. So live life and live the presence because that might be the very moment we all need to revive our spirit.
However, when I held him in the hospital, every thing seems to change. My sister put him on the crux of my left arm and I have not held a new infant for such a long time that I had to struggle a bit to position him in the right and safe way so that he would not fall off my arm. He was being fussy as he was placed on my arm but after being on my arm for a second or two, he calmed down and he closed his little eyes to enjoy being held by his aunt for the first time in his life. The instant connect between him and me was there and the comfort of holding another new human being was the last thing I expected; as I held him, he closed his eyes now and then and then peaked open his eyes to the wonder of the new world around him and the people standing closed to him. When he moved, the wrinkles on his forehead became apparent and when he cried, his little lips opened wide and there was no hint of embarrassment whatsoever about his toothless mouth. Warren is a gift and he is definitely an unexpected bundle of joy. Sometimes, life throws at us something hard to handle but at other times, it gives us the little things that would give us joy that no other material goods can bring to us. Life can be frustrating at times but it can bring us small joy that triumphs over what we would consider as the more important things in life--think money and material goods--which would only bring us temporary happiness. So live life and live the presence because that might be the very moment we all need to revive our spirit.
Monday, July 6, 2015
The Difference
"There's a difference between who we love, who we settle with and who we're meant for."
The quote applies for many situations in life, it applies to our professional life and personal life. There will be one person, or thing or profession, that you truly love and you settle for it but in the end it does not feel right because we are not meant for it and it is not meant for us. Sometimes we have to keep searching for that person or passion even though we might have decided to settle for it already. We will make mistakes and it is okay, mistakes are a part of life and we have to acknowledge and accept it no matter what.
I used to not believe in divorce, and I do not encourage divorce or endorse everyone to see divorce as the solution if their marriages run into trouble, but the more I see life the more how divorce makes more sense now and I see the necessary of it in certain situations. Sometimes, the purpose of living life is to change the way we view certain topics and to make us into a person who is flexible to anything that life brings to us and just one quote can undo our stubborness and our unwillingness and helps us understand life just a little better; it's called adaptation and we all get better at it as we get older.
The quote applies for many situations in life, it applies to our professional life and personal life. There will be one person, or thing or profession, that you truly love and you settle for it but in the end it does not feel right because we are not meant for it and it is not meant for us. Sometimes we have to keep searching for that person or passion even though we might have decided to settle for it already. We will make mistakes and it is okay, mistakes are a part of life and we have to acknowledge and accept it no matter what.
I used to not believe in divorce, and I do not encourage divorce or endorse everyone to see divorce as the solution if their marriages run into trouble, but the more I see life the more how divorce makes more sense now and I see the necessary of it in certain situations. Sometimes, the purpose of living life is to change the way we view certain topics and to make us into a person who is flexible to anything that life brings to us and just one quote can undo our stubborness and our unwillingness and helps us understand life just a little better; it's called adaptation and we all get better at it as we get older.
Thursday, July 2, 2015
A Few Word on Growth
"Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong."
Growth hurts and sometimes it hurts a lot. We are not used to the new habits and just the ways of things in general. We are not used to the new comings and how it affects us mentally and physically; our head feels tense because we have to learn a new way of life, new thought process, and our brain fights them with every cell and parts of us. Growth, however, is something we have to surrender ourselves to if we want to be a better person and if we want to make our life for the better; any time there is necessary change, it will be uncomfortable and even painful but we have to fight it, we have to fight for ourselves and our values and know that the end result is what we need and sometimes it is the only thing we have to need. But for all the bad experiences, we have to be patient with ourselves and know that we can learn anything and we can accomplish anything we put our mind to and that resilience is necessary for every winning battle. If we fight hard enough, time will reveal what matters and what does not. Sit still and enjoy the rocky ride because maybe you might look back some day, laugh at it, and thank God that you had to go through all of that horrendous dramas in order to get to where you want to be and where you need to be.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)