Acceptance

There will be a point in your life where you finally realize and understand something, this applies to the academics, sports, work, conflicts, etc, and those aha moments come unexpectedly and it gives hope to the future.

I had one of it today while watching a Harry Potter movie today and that is the last thing I expect my brain to get it.  My aha moment is accepting my life for what it really is.  I realize that I cannot have it all and it's such a great joy to accept life for what it really is rather than trying hard to make things better when it's impossible to change them and fight the unexpected.  I've done this for the past three years of my life and don't get me wrong I lost many battles but at the same time I won many battles as well; some of these battles were inevitable and they were a part of growing up and at first I struggled to accept and acknowledge them because of my egoistic and feminism values and fighting them did not help to get rid of the flames, as a matter of fact fighting it is even harder than accepting for what it is.  How can this happen to me? Why did it happen? Why didn't I see it coming? Those were the questions I heard myself asking every single day and if you talk to anyone who is going through a tough time he would only give you sympathy because those words echo his thoughts and feelings.  Maybe those wise words from the olden days were true, maybe it is best sometimes to catch what life throws at you and move with the waves of life. 

There are many benefits to accepting life for what it is.  First of all, it helps you to adapt to changes.  Changes occur everywhere; our bodies are constantly changing from the microscopic levels to the macroscopic levels.  People come and go, your perspectives about life are constantly molded, altered, and formed every single day and you may not realize it.  Adapting is a survival skill we all have to master in order to survive this harsh world and acceptance in itself can help cultivate that.

Secondly, acceptance is a sign of healing.  We refused something because it's not what we expect and that act only puts more burdens on the person.  We say it's not fair that that happened and so we pushed it aside and blame on something and someone for the reason why that even occurred.  In the end, the person who refuses the way life is is the one who suffers the most.  This healing, or the act of acceptance may be hard but maybe it's a sign from mother nature telling the individual that life is getting better.