As I was having lunch with one of my coworkers, she mentioned how she does not like to date, or even marry, a financially well-off man. When we say a person is financially secured, the term is vague and it can have different meanings base on the experiences and the way of thinking for each person. “Why?” I asked my Asian coworker who was raised in a traditional Vietnamese household; the answer was definitely apparent to me but I wanted her to confirm the reason behind her logic, I wanted to hear her own opinion rather than letting my figment of thoughts interfered. She stated a financially secured man is someone who makes $70,000 or more annually; to me, the $70,000 income line was bit low but to my coworker, it is enough to afford the necessities in life such as a car, a house, and may even support his own future family, etc. Her logic is understandable and it has a lot of merit to it as I have heard and read stories of people’s spouse who left them or filed for a divorce due to the differences in income and life styles between the couple as the years roll on. Sad to say, but that is the fact in life.
The conversation made me think how we sometimes do not reach high enough in life. This applies to our professional and personal life; each of us wants something out of life and we hope to get it but there is always a tick or a thought that holds us back from reaching out. Many people reach for something that what other people consider as beyond our reach while others love to dream and think big. For instance, Oprah once said, “Your life is big. Keep reaching.” In fact, Oprah came from a background of poverty and she is now one of the wealthiest and most powerful women in the world. She wasn’t born rich; she had to work hard to get to where she is in life today, and it was not without sweat and hard-work.
A lot of time, we are our own obstacles. We think we cannot be more than who we are today. We think we cannot do better in life. This can stem from the fear of failures or some other bad experiences in the past; whatever it is, it is holding us back from being successful and being strong. I’m not saying that we should go out in the world and do something extreme or would put us in danger; no of course not, no one in their right mindset should attempt this, rather we have to use our good judgments and trust ourselves rather than letting the reign of fear regulates us.
In order for us to be successful, there are many key points we have to remember. First of all, we have to do something we are passionate about. We have to find our purpose and turn it into the light we will focus on. Why? When things are dark, we will turn to that light; when things go awry, it will show us the way. Our passion will be the light, which no one can take away and it will guide us in any direction we want to go. Secondly, our goal needs to have a systemic approach. We need to come up with steps and strategies and this will help us to deal with whatever comes our way in a more calm way.
Yes, I believe thinking big is possible and we can reach for that big goals no matter where we are in life. The question is: are we ready to put aside our fears and leap into the unknown?
(And yes, I believe every woman deserves to marry a financially secured man, no matter what is her income.)
The conversation made me think how we sometimes do not reach high enough in life. This applies to our professional and personal life; each of us wants something out of life and we hope to get it but there is always a tick or a thought that holds us back from reaching out. Many people reach for something that what other people consider as beyond our reach while others love to dream and think big. For instance, Oprah once said, “Your life is big. Keep reaching.” In fact, Oprah came from a background of poverty and she is now one of the wealthiest and most powerful women in the world. She wasn’t born rich; she had to work hard to get to where she is in life today, and it was not without sweat and hard-work.
A lot of time, we are our own obstacles. We think we cannot be more than who we are today. We think we cannot do better in life. This can stem from the fear of failures or some other bad experiences in the past; whatever it is, it is holding us back from being successful and being strong. I’m not saying that we should go out in the world and do something extreme or would put us in danger; no of course not, no one in their right mindset should attempt this, rather we have to use our good judgments and trust ourselves rather than letting the reign of fear regulates us.
In order for us to be successful, there are many key points we have to remember. First of all, we have to do something we are passionate about. We have to find our purpose and turn it into the light we will focus on. Why? When things are dark, we will turn to that light; when things go awry, it will show us the way. Our passion will be the light, which no one can take away and it will guide us in any direction we want to go. Secondly, our goal needs to have a systemic approach. We need to come up with steps and strategies and this will help us to deal with whatever comes our way in a more calm way.
Yes, I believe thinking big is possible and we can reach for that big goals no matter where we are in life. The question is: are we ready to put aside our fears and leap into the unknown?
(And yes, I believe every woman deserves to marry a financially secured man, no matter what is her income.)
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